Nice

To all the nice people out there who are tired of being pushed around. I was pushed too far today.

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Being nice is saying please and thank you.

It’s thinking of others first (even if you don’t want to).

Nice people smile, are interested and ask how you’ve been.

They listen to you talk and ignore their electronic screen.

 

It’s nice to help those in need and donate time. 

Caring for others is a true joy, but it’s no crime-

To sometimes want everyone to leave you alone,

So you can hide, recharge, read, or play on your phone.

 

Being nice is hard and not always fun.

For many will coo and call you ‘hun’

While holding a knife and hiding a beast

Ready to plunge and begin to feast-

On your soul. (Really, that’s what happens if you don’t put up boundaries. People will eat you alive. Heaven forbid you deviate from your usual niceness for one second because you’re tired, or really stressed because you’re moving and building a house. Maybe, just maybe, the world doesn’t revolve around that other person and their little problems and you’re sick and tired of hearing about how their life is much more difficult than yours and ‘can’t you try to understand?’ No, Bitsy, no I don’t care that you can’t chose between Calacatta or Carrara marble for your $100,000 kitchen remodel. I don’t care that Mr. Wiggleton ate off-brand cat food and was constipated for a week and I really don’t care that you’ll simply die if you don’t lose two pounds by next week when you go on your tropical vacation! What about me? I have issues, too!!*Pant, pant, pant.*

Ahem. I digress. Rant over).

A warning to all who think nice people are sheep grazing contentedly on grass.

Push us too far and we’ll snap, scream and cuss or just kick your ass.

©Sara Ackerman, 2016

5 thoughts on “Nice

  1. Oh, how this resonates with me! I don’t know why it happens but it does. People get used to receiving politeness and taking advantage of it. I wrote a post on my blog some time ago on a similar theme, ‘Strength and Courage, The Tears Behind a Smile’.

    1. Thank you for the comment and for replying with a link to yours. I read and enjoyed it. It spoke to me and bolstered my confidence to remember that kindness and ‘being nice’ is a strength.

      1. As they say, it takes strength to be gentle. Not many people would acknowledge it, but I know it’s true. The louder someone shouts, the more insecure they are. As the mother of two boys, one still in his teens, I know that the more they shout, the more terrified they are. I’m glad you enjoyed the read.

  2. I just posted about ‘not sweating the small stuff’. It is related to what we both posted previously. I started thinking and came to the conclusion that if all the caregivers and organisers refused to ‘help out’, things would change…and fast! Hope you’re having a good day 🙂

    1. How true! It’s so easy to overlook the helpers because they are willing to help (usually). It’s only when the helpers say they’ve had enough that people take notice. Unfortunately, the notice is not always good. In education, teachers are vilified when they ask for increased salary to compensate for the extra ‘help’ they give, and I imagine other helping professions would say the same. It’s not enough to pay the helpers; those receiving also need to truly appreciate all that the helpers of the world do and only then will their true value be known.

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